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Knowing your partner is having extramarital affair with some other woman is devastating - but how do you find out some of the clues you need about it?

You just want to find out - and if you just know how…

Before you go any further though, realise that who he is cheating with might not be as important as looking for a solution in the first place. That other woman may just take a role of ‘the other woman’ or the role of ‘his escape’ from the marriage problem HE may be having.

It is up to you whether or not you want to find out about his extramarital affair - but remember that this is your choice for your peace of mind.

1. The Third Party

This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.

Ok, how would you find out?

Try to jot down a list of names - female names that he has mentioned in the past few weeks or recently. There won’t be many names. Also, since normally affair is unplanned in the beginning, he would have mentioned that name in conversation before.

Usually the other woman has something in common with the cheating spouse, something that can lead him into the ‘infatuation’ stage with her. Yes, so the name will somehow be blurted out…no excuse about it.

Note: It’s better if you don’t freak out or show your suspicion to him too much otherwise he would be much more careful in blurting out her name.

2. The activity

There must be things that they do - that you don’t normally do with your spouse - the things that they have in common. Of course, as it is an extramarital affair there would be some physical intimacy involved some other times too.

Example of the activities can be sport, skateboarding, skiing, the gym etc.

3. The Meeting Place

If you have a rough idea on what he normally enjoys doing you will be able to guess it. There is a few rules associated with this including the 50 mile rule: make sure you do it 50 mile away, and the ‘dangerous is safe’ rule: the more dangerous it seems the safer it would be (This means he will actually meet his other woman in YOUR area - or if you live with him he’ll meet his other woman in your place).

Another place is the workplace (Somewhere around his workplace).

4. When they are doing it?

Some women would ask me now: “If he dares to do it in MY OWN place - I live with him, WHEN?” especially if you’re hardly on holidays.

Ok, if you live with him he sure knows your schedule - or he may have been more interested in your activity and schedule lately. As he is very close with you, he knows exactly which ones of your schedule would likely go through versus the ones that you may cancel in the last minute.

Whether you like it or not, you will have fixed schedule such as ‘working late every Wednesday night’ or ‘Go out with the girls every Thursday night’. Some of them you just cannot get out of and he will use this very time to meet his significant other.