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Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.

And that is a bit sad.

There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.

But I had my head up my ass.

…maybe that’s a little rude.

But it comes to TWO different problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. But I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I’ve accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But…

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is Myspace, shopping and getting drunk any cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all are the same.

What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.

A girl won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself first.

Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself?

She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.

Because you can’t really like a woman, if you don’t like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that’s in my experience.

And I’m not excepted from them.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.

But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not divided from your game.

Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.

Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.

That is the indistinct you.

That’s you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she’s lucky you talked to her, she’ll feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.